How many of you men have worked a second job beside your primary job?

Let me share with you that the primary job you have is not the one that your receive a paycheck from. That job is your second job! Your primary is to be a husband and father.

Men, out loud on the count of three share your birthdate…

I have to tell you that date is not the beginning of your story. As a matter of fact, your story begins in the book of Genesis. It is there that we see the Creator form and make man in his very own image. It is in those pages of time that we see this Creator give his creation the ability, no, the freedom to choose to follow or reject the Creator.
The creation reflects his Creator. He is intellectual. He is spiritual. He is emotional. The creation is given passion, desire, and spirit by the Creator because the Creator has all of these and more.

But something happens – Adam chooses Eve over God. He has chosen lies over truth and the passion, the zeal, the spirit, the fire begins to be put out. He becomes a shell of the creation that God made and he will never be the same. God does not shut him out, nor does God remove the passion and desire. It is still there. The problem is man is afraid to let the passion, desire and spirit be free. He cages it the way we cage a wild animal in a zoo. We pace back and forth, over and over, wearing a path in the same place. It becomes our life, our pace, our brainwashing. God never meant it to be this way. This was not his plan.

Let me put it in perspective for today. Men have been "sissified." The correct word is emasculated. In other words, we have had our masculinity removed from us. That has happened because of several reasons. One of those reasons is that mothers have become the primary role in a little boy’s life. Mom’s do have a role in her son’s life. That is definitely part of God’s plan. But Mothers who are over protective, overbearing, and coddle a boy will strip him of the masculinity that God created. I am not talking about “male chaveunism”, but rather the role and place of the man. I was a momma’s boy. I am the youngest of nine children. I love my mother very deeply and would spend time in the kitchen in my latter years watching her and asking questions. I also had a father who would let us work with him on cars, build things with our hands, and work along side him chopping wood or fishing for trout in the mountains.

Wives are seeking a leader in the home only to find out that they have married a lazy louse, who would rather watch sportscenter than to watch a beautiful sunset. He has no passion, no desire, no fire. It has been sucked out of him. Sucked out of him by the culture he lives in that sees men, especially husbands, as a laughing stock. Those men who are followers of Christ have forgotten that their leader is the Lion of Judah, the King of all Kings, and The Mighty Warrior. These men would fit more into McHale’s Navy rather than Jesus’ Army.

Why do we have problems in marriages today? It is my belief that three things have happened

The role of a man and that of a woman has been distorted by culture.

The church has failed to kindle the spirits of men.

The women’s liberation movement has stripped men of the leadership responsibilityof the family.

More tomorrow.